Dating can be exciting yet disappointing; hopeful yet tiresome. Especially when you add in external factors such as work, kids, family, friends, exes, etc. When you date over the age of 30 you may have the benefit of experience within dating relationships. However, with this experience it can be helpful or harmful depending on our expectations, past hurts, patterns of dating, and sense of self-awareness. If you’re repeating the same patterns it’s time to make some changes. Hiring a dating coach can help with identifying the same old patterns of dating and offer insight to expand personal growth individually and within relationships. Self-awareness is key. As you increase your self-awareness you are more likely to manage your expectations with dating and you have a better idea of your must haves and deal breakers.
Even with insight and self-awareness, it can be puzzling on Where to Find a Date. I’ve listed some opportunities below. A few things to remember are be aware of your surroundings, make eye contact, smile, and be open to the possibility of meeting someone in an unexpected place.
- Online dating sites – There are sites dedicated to almost every category you can think of: fitness lovers, dog lovers, expats, looking to find a fling, or a serious relationship, etc.
- Friends or Family introductions
- Church or your Faith-based community
- Volunteer organizations or events
- Grocery stores (way more common than you think)
- Speed dating events
- Matchmaker services
- Hobbies you’re interested in or already doing – art, cooking classes, wine tasting, trivia nights, hiking, cycling, music, etc
- Dog parks
- Sporting events
The list can go on and on. The point is that the opportunity to meet someone is around us all the time. The important thing is to know what you’re looking for, be yourself, have fun and find the humor, and stay hopeful. Dating can be exhausting and even disappointing at times however it can also offer companionship and connection when you find a good fit. Dating may be short term or turn into something long term but you will never know unless you put yourself out there.